Why me?
My life was going all perfect. I was getting good grades, I had a good job, I drove a crazy car, had amazing friends who I thought the world of, until…. All the happiness I had was gone, my grades started dropping, I got laid off by my company and my friends all left me one by one… I was in anguish, I was upset, at that moment the only thing I could think of was: does God even love me? Why am I going through all of this?
Why not the others who don’t pray and go against Him?
After much thought and research throughout life, I realized that the key to living a happy life is having faith that whatever good or bad comes, is from Allah. If a person is succeeding in life and all his matters and life is well settled, he should be thankful to the creator and he should stay humble. On the other hand, if a person is facing hardships, he should again think of it as a sign from Allah. In most cases we fail to see the good side of things whenever we face hardship, we do not think about how it could’ve been even worse than it already is and how Allah has protected him.
Allah says in the Holy Quran “For indeed, with hardship [will be] ease. Indeed, with hardship [will be] ease.”
[Surah Ash-Sharh Verses 5-6] These verses are evidence that behind every hardship there is an element of ease. Allah tests the believers but the wisdom behind it is often not comprehended by us and that is why we start blaming Allah and thus our faith weakens. If we are humble, thankful even in pain, then ALLAH often turns that pain into a blessing far better than the pain.
Calamities are also a blessing in disguise from Allah most of the times. Allah says in the Quran “Or think you that you will enter Paradise without such (trials) as came to those who passed away before you? They were afflicted with severe poverty and ailments and were so shaken that even the Messenger and those who believed along with him said, ‘When (will come) the Help of Allah?’ Yes! Certainly, the Help of Allah is near!” [Al-Baqarah Verse 214] This verse explains how Allah tests even the Messengers who are the noblest of all men. This is evidence that Allah tests those who he loves and for every one hardship that a person goes through, Allah the supreme expiates one sin of his and writes one blessing in place of that sin.
Another way of looking at things is that sometimes your deeds are not enough to take you in Jannah, so Allah uses your patience in times of calamities as a means to elevate your stature and enter you in Jannah.
Always think positive and expect the best from Allah. So, the gist of this article is that every believer who is on the top or who has hit rock bottom should praise Allah and thank him in all circumstances. The attitude of a believer shouldn’t be ‘Why me’? Instead, the believer should have a ‘try me’ attitude but keep in mind that one should not ask for calamities just be patient and steadfast in hard times. The greater the test, the more he will be loved by Allah. Mus’ab bin saad narrated from his father that a man said: “O Messenger of Allah( ﷺ )! Which of the people is tried most severely?” He said: “They are the Prophets, then the next best, then the next best. A man is tried according to his religion. If he is firm in his religion, his trials will be more severe. If he is weak in his religion, he is tried according to his strength in religion. The servant will continue to be tried until he is left walking upon the earth without any sin”. So fellows, always trust the process and never forget the blessings of your lord upon you in good times and in bad times, do not forget that Allah loves you the most.
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Topic Selection Very Well. 🙂
Subhanallah <3
Waoo great perspective of hardships.
Mashallah my dear!!! You explained very well to the hardships….and TruE happiness. Allah bless you…. keep us on right path…. Ameeeen.